MEN'S CURE

If you’re susceptible to vice, find a wife. She’ll save you from yourself—and improve your life—in a variety of ways. Notably, she’ll . . .

1. Increase Your Pay
A Virginia Commonwealth University study found that married men earn 22 percent more than their similarly experienced but single colleagues.

2. Speed Up Your Next Promotion
Married men receive higher performance ratings and faster promotions than bachelors, a 2005 study of U.S. Navy officers reported.

3. Keep You Out of Trouble
According to a recent U.S. Department of Justice report, male victims of violent crime are nearly four times more likely to be single than married.

4. Satisfy You in Bed
In 2006, British researchers reviewed the sexual habits of men in 38 countries and found that in every country, married men have more sex.

5. Help You Beat Cancer
In a Norwegian study, divorced and never-married male cancer patients had 11 and 16 percent higher mortality rates, respectively, than married men.

6. Help You Live Longer
A UCLA study found that people in generally excellent health were 88 percent more likely to die over the 8-year study period if they were single.

Source: Men’s Health

The way to a woman’s bedroom is through her ears. That’s because for me and most women I know, chatting about relationships is as much fun as having them. It starts during kindergarten (“Want to be my boyfriend?”) and continues through adolescence (“Do you like him, or do you like him like him?”) and adulthood (“Call me after your date, to recap”).

To have a rich, full, naked relationship with one of us, you have to participate in this sort of chatter. And that can be a problem. “She’s doing something she’s done throughout her life and feels good at,” says Deborah Tannen, Ph.D., whose book You Just Don’t Understand unlocks the mysteries of male-female communication. “He hasn’t done much of it, doesn’t particularly enjoy it, and feels it’s not his game.” So you try your best—asking good questions, giving solid answers, and making her laugh. But there are a few difficult conversations that men, try as they might, tend to screw up.

That’s about to change. Here is your guide to the six trickiest relationship talks. “Each of these, if handled correctly, is a ticket to the next level of intimacy with a woman,” promises Les Parrott, Ph.D., the author of Love Talk. In other words, say the right thing and your relationship will be richer, fuller, and more naked than ever. And that’s worth talking about.

The STD Talk

She asks: “How many women have you slept with?”

You answer: “Thirty-six.”

Why that’s a mistake: Uh, hello, McFly, she wasn’t really asking how many women you’ve slept with. She was asking if you’ve ever been tested for sexually transmitted diseases. But now that you’ve answered truthfully, she’ll be sure to hold it against you.

What to say instead: “I’m not really into keeping score, but if you’re worried about STDs, I was tested last month”—or whatever the reality is—”and if it’ll make you feel better, I’ll see my doctor next week.” Then go. The more proactive you are, the more comfortable she’ll be and the better the sex will be. “The only way you’re going to enjoy sex is if you get this talk out of the way,” says Logan Levkoff, a sexologist and the author of Third Base Ain’t What It Used to Be.

The Birth-Control Talk

She asks: “Did you bring a condom?”

You answer: “Why don’t you go on the Pill?”

Why that’s a mistake: You think you’re being honest and direct. She thinks you’re being selfish, and isn’t that just typical. Anger ensues. Sex doesn’t.

What to say instead: “Do you like how sex feels when I’m wearing a condom?” You do have a shot, because most women prefer sex au naturel, too. Take her answer as a jumping-off point to share your preferences. She’s not likely to say, “What a great idea. I’ll see my gynecologist tomorrow.” So be willing to shelve this discussion for a few months—and to try various types of condoms—while she determines whether you’re Pillworthy.

The Where’s-This-Going? Talk

She asks: “Where’s this going?”

You answer: “Back off, man trap.”

Why that’s a mistake: You think she’s asking why you haven’t proposed. But she’s just wondering if you see her in your short-or long-term future. You feel cornered and storm out. She shatters a vase on the wall.

What to say instead: “Can we talk about this on Saturday?” You need to think about where the relationship actually is going. On Saturday, put all your thoughts and concerns on the table, says Janet Surrey, Ph.D., coauthor of We Have to Talk. Don’t worry about having all answers. She just wants you to think about the question. The one exception: If you don’t want the relationship to go farther, say so. She’s prepared for the worst, so she’ll take the news pretty well.

The Sexual-Desire Talk

She says: “Let’s just snuggle tonight.”

You answer: “Why don’t you ever want to have sex with me?”

Why that’s a mistake: Guilt isn’t hot. Neither is selfishness. “Don’t make it seem like you’re only interested in getting what you want, even if you are,” says Surrey. If you become frustrated, she’ll become frosty.

What to say instead: “How would you like a massage?” She’ll know what your motive is, but since you’re putting her pleasure first, she’s more apt to overlook it. If she still wants only to sleep in your arms, let her. Then initiate sex in the a.m. Her testosterone spikes in the morning, and cuddling increases oxytocin, a hormone that makes her feel more amorous.

The Money Talk

She asks: “Do you like my new shoes?”

You answer: “You really need more shoes?”

Why that’s a mistake: No, she didn’t need another pair of shoes, just like you didn’t need an iPhone. But she’s modeling them for you now, so get over it.

What to say instead: “They look great on you.” Then gently remind her about that trip you’re both saving for. “What leads to fighting is not being clear about financial goals,” says Sharon Epperson, author of The Big Payoff. If you haven’t agreed on what you’re saving for yet, take this as a sign you should start. Go over your budget at the start of every month, suggests Epperson. Along with long-term goals, it needs room for pleasure purchases like shoes and iStuff.

The Room-to-Breathe Talk

She says: “I need some space.”

You answer: “Have a nice life.”

Why that’s a mistake: When a woman asks for space, she’s not dumping you. She just wants a few days to herself. Or . . . she’s testing you to see how invested you are in the relationship. If you bolt, you fail.

What to say instead: “Take as much space as you need.” Chances are she’ll clear her head, miss you, and end up calling within a week. During that time, put your thoughts about the relationship—the good and bad, and where you see it going—in a letter. “Writing it will allow you to gather your thoughts and convey to her how you truly feel,” says Surrey. Send the letter. She may not come running back to you, but at least you’ll have started the conversation.

Source: Men’s Health

Nearly everyone wants more sex—men and women. So why isn’t it happening more often?

There are hundreds of reasons. But Men’s Health surveyed 1,000 women and combed through the latest research to narrow down the list to the ones you see on the left.

You’ll find most of the constraints of modern society—time demands, distractions, stress, energy levels.

Recognize any from your life? Click on them and find out how you and your partner can overcome those obstacles—and get back to having more fun!

Endless Bickering

Fighting over serious issues is normal, but bickering can cramp your sex life, says Valerie Davis Raskin, M.D., author of Great Sex for Moms. Unless compromise is easy, “it’s often better to put minor disputes aside,” she says. “You shouldn’t talk over everything endlessly.” In our survey, the most trivial quarrels were about the house. Avoid them by playing to each other’s strengths. Then divvy up the decisions accordingly.

A Houseful of Kids

If tantrums and diapers are polluting your passion, ditch the kids (for a night). “It’s all about creating opportunity,” Dr. Raskin says. “Spontaneity is enviable, but planned sex can be great, too.” Particularly if you’re not getting enough. You know that couple next door? They’re probably in a similar situation, so propose a kid swap. You take theirs on Friday, they take yours on Saturday. If the neighbors are freaks, go home when the kids aren’t: lunchtime. Nearly 40 percent of women would be willing to get busy at noon.

Late-Night TV

Here’s a disturbing set of statistics: Italian researchers found that people with a TV in the bedroom have half as much sex as those who don’t. And yet, 64 percent of couples keep a set in the boudoir. Try getting rid of it. John Stewart won’t mind.

“Getting it on is about putting the brain and body in a passionate state—TV does the opposite,” says Heidi Raykeil, author of Confessions of a Naughty Mommy. Can’t quit? Buy a DVR and watch your favorite shows on weekends.

Conflicting Schedules

Sixty-hour workweeks plus social plans can leave her too tired to tangle. But pumping up the passion at the beginning of your week sets the tone for days to come. If you’re both schedule-driven types, start inserting gym time into your Outlook calendar.

Go to the gym together on Monday or Tuesday: Studies show both sexes experience a surge of libido-boosting testosterone 30 minutes after a workout. Shower and then hit the bedroom. “It’ll zap stress and the sexual momentum will last through the weekend,” says Michael Breus, Ph.D., author of Good Night.

Or start reserving a tennis or racquetball court. Men who play sports increase testosterone levels by 15 percent, according to a Pennsylvania State University study. It’s even better if she is your steady doubles partner (or opponent). The same study showed that women increased their libido-regulating testosterone by 49 percent during competition.

An Extra Slice of Pie

Romantic dinners are nice. But hoovering down that romantic dinner can backfire. Share an entrée to eat less and spark a passionate interaction, says Bunny Crumpacker, author of The Sex Life of Food.

“Choosing a meal together and sharing the dish can boost your sense of cooperation,” she says. Your best bet: Whip up a dish at home—66 percent of the women we surveyed said they’d be more likely to have sex after a home-cooked meal.

Job Stress

This one cuts both ways. Too much stress can be as deflating to a sex life as a litter of puppies in the bedroom. If that’s the case, there’s little you can do at home to fix matters—the change has to come at work. If your work is hindering your sex life, it’s probably affecting your health, too. So have that talk with your boss to clear the air, change your duties, and see if you can free up some hours and some brain space that will revive your love life.

But ironically, a stressful job (or even a dangerous one) involving some level of competition, as in law or sales, can actually improve it. “Real competition can drive up testosterone, which boosts libido,” says Helen Fisher, Ph.D., author of Why We Love.

“Being amped up by a high-powered, high-stress job is more likely to make you more sexually active” than idling in a cushy, low-key career.

Boredom in Bed

A Kinsey Institute study found that nearly one-quarter of women reported some distress in their sexual relationships in the preceding month. One of the most common causes of dissatisfaction: boredom.

“The common denominator of satisfied couples is that they’re very playful,” says sex therapist Ava Cadell, Ph.D., author of The Pocket Idiot’s Guide to Oral Sex. “My definition of sex is adult play. It should be fun and recreational. You should laugh and release all those pleasure endorphins. A sense of humor is an essential ingredient in great sex because it takes pressure off performance.”

Toys = instant play. Shop together at a toy store (the kids’ kind) for playthings you can bring into the bedroom. Imagine the possibilities with washable paint, masks, water pistols, and toy handcuffs. Or go to babeland.com for the real deal.

Stuck in a Routine

The average man’s sex life stays the same or even improves once he ties the knot. To ensure this outcome, do what good pitchers do—throw changeups into your nightlife at least once a week.

“Novelty is good for sex, and I don’t just mean novel sex. Novelty in your social life,” Fisher says. It can be as simple as skipping dinner to play miniature golf or listening to a live band instead of the car radio.

Anything that makes the start of your evening less predictable can change up the ending, as well.

Her Body Image

The way a woman feels about her body correlates with how inhibited she feels in bed. Sure, complimenting her shoes validates her taste, and saying something about her eyes reinforces her beauty.

But praising her most guarded body parts—butt, thighs, waist—may be more important to your sexual satisfaction. “Women spend their lives trying to look good for men,” Fisher says. “So a woman who feels she’s sending the right visual signals is pleased with herself.”

The surprising part: The very best time for a “nice ass” shout-out is when there’s absolutely no chance that you’ll be having sex soon, like before you walk into her parents’ house for Sunday brunch. “It’s a gift to compliment her outside of the bedroom,” says Fisher. Praising her body at times other than when there’s a bulge in your pants reinforces your sincerity.

Speaking of body image, men, have you looked at yourself in the mirror lately? Maybe that’s part of the problem. A weight-loss and workout program like our Belly Off! system could be just what you (or both of you) need.

Her Wardrobe

A long flannel nightgown is a clear message that she’s not ready for sex. But buying her an uncomfortable lace teddy isn’t going to change her mind—especially if she has body-image issues (see No. 9).

The key here: make her comfortable. Start slowly: Buy her a pair of flannel boxers and a cotton tank top. She feels the comfort; you see some skin.

As for you, maybe it’s time to retire the ripped Megadeth T-shirt. Get some plain dark-colored T’s, switch to boxer briefs, and see what happens. Attention to your own appearance sends a positive signal.

Source: Men’s Health

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Here’s a few simple tips on how to correctly put on, use, and dispose of a condom. Don’t make any mistake or? – See video below…..

Check the expiration date.

Make sure it was not stored in a warm environment or near sharp objects.

Use your fingers to push the condom to the opposite side of the package so it will not tear when you open the wrapper.

Remove the condom from the wrapper and pinch the tip between your fingers to prevent any air from getting in the tip.

For extra comfort and enjoyment, place a drop of water-based lubricant at the tip of the condom and on the penis.

Make sure the penis is erect.

While pinching the tip of the condom between your fingers, hold it at the tip of the penis and begin unrolling it down the shaft.

Make sure the rolled-up part of the condom is on the outside.

If the condom rolls back up toward the head of the penis during sex, roll it back down immediately.

If it slips completely off, do not put it back on. Instead, put on a new condom.

After ejaculation, hold the base of the condom while withdrawing from your partner to prevent the condom from slipping off.

Make sure to keep the condom and your penis from touching your partner’s body.

Wrap the used condom in tissue and toss it in the garbage.

Do not flush it down the toilet.

Proper condom use means no penetration without it.

Never reuse a condom.